Letting Go To Feel Good!

Letting go is often something that can be thought of as being painful to experience. It can be associated with loss, and with hurt and with anguish, and can be perceived as being negative, and of leaving a gap in your life. 

Letting go might resonate with you in many different ways - letting go of a loved one that you have lost, letting go of a relationship that is no longer healthy, letting go of a friendship that is past its best, or letting go of a pet that you can no longer give the best home to. It might be letting go of your favourite clothes or pair of shoes that you have been clinging on to but never wear, letting go of a business idea that just doesn't seem to work, or letting go of a home, or a job, that you have grown to love. 

What if we think of letting go from a different perspective? 

What if letting go is actually a good thing - something that allows us to let go, in fact, of the pain we feel, instead of leading us to feel pain as the end result. 

What if we look at letting go as a positive process that is releasing us from things that no longer serve our best path and highest self?

I like to think of letting go, as prone to sadness or resistance as it may sometimes be, as something that is making way for better things. 

In every life experience there is a lesson for us to learn, a lesson that can provide purpose, direction, and motivation, for us to continue on and do great things. 

What can you choose to let go of this week to allow more positive things to enter your life?

Are you holding on to any stresses or worries that you will do well to release yourself from?

"Worrying pretends to be necessary, but serves no useful purpose."

You may be presented with situation where you decide to let go on a small scale, or on a larger scale, and your mindset and perspective when working through this can determine the impact and outcome of what you learn and feel. 

Letting go of things can actually be incredibly empowering, as we release our attachments to a particular outcome or object, and allow ourselves to become open to the possibilities and opportunities that surround us. 

By letting go - and sometimes by being forced to let go - I notice that I have experienced increased connection and development of new relationships and solidifying of existing ones, more freedom and a sense of inspiration and motivation for the future, and a sense of alignment with what is meant to be, and what is best for me. 

Think about the lesson in what you have experienced. Look for the positives that can come out of a negative situation. Notice the opportunities that lie ahead. 

Letting go might simply mean that you stop worrying about something and let go of the outcome, leaving you to feel light and free. 

Sometimes it is our negative mindset, thoughts, and perspective that we are in need of letting go of, and sometimes this key element can be the hardest to crack. 

Ill be talking more about negative thoughts and how to release yourself and let go, in my new video blog which will be coming up tomorrow. Keep an eye on the optimallyou YouTube channel where this vlog will be released, and subscribe to the channel to be the first to see :) 

In the meantime have a wonderful week!

With Gratitude, 

Niyc 

xx

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What you do every day matters

It seems an appropriate time to revisit the commitments I made at the beginning of January. New Years Resolutions - who has forgotten about them already?

I seem to have done okay with fulfilling the intentions that I set at the start of the year - to incorporate more spinning, yoga, and boxing into my weekly routine, to cook more and eat out less, to practice forgiveness daily, take one day off each week, and to read something and write something every day. 

Firstly my MOVE related intentions, I have been to yoga twice this month - I would like to do more of this, and can plan to include yoga once weekly going forwards. I would also like to work out when I can fit spinning into my schedule as yet I haven't made it to a spin class! I think a little bit of organisation will go a long way here. Boxing is something that has really been working for me, and I have been loving having a personal training session each week to teach me how to box. I've even found some anger in there somewhere and I'm getting better! Even with my background in exercise and having been a personal trainer for almost ten years myself, boxing was something that was a little out of my comfort zone. I've really benefitted from having an appointment to show up to each week, where I'm pushed and my fitness and skill level tested in different ways than I am used to. I've learned to punch from my hips, and to keep my back foot planted instead of lifting it off the floor like a fairy! Thank you Dan! So grateful for your teaching! 

My NOURISH related intentions involved cooking more and eating out less, and this has been going well, although I have seemed to still manage to enjoy a few meals out each week. I realise that eating out is my social time, and I really love to enjoy that space with friends. I have made the effort to eat breakfast and lunch at home a lot more, and have been cooking up my favourite green veg stir fry on many mornings as the perfect start to my day. Stir fried kale, broccoli, and mangetout, with beansprouts and a green juice! Stir fried with coconut oil, and also sometimes some chilli. It seems like a strange breakfast to have, but when your day starts at 5am and breakfast is at 10am, it's kind of like lunch time already anyway!

The final intentions that I set for myself for January and 2015 were FLOURISH related, and involved practising forgiveness daily, taking one day off each week, and reading and writing something every day. This has actually been one of the most impactful areas of my intentions, and I have really noticed new habits forming as a result. I have practised forgiveness every single day in January, and have made the effort to take notice of how this process has made me feel. The effects have been so overwhelmingly positive, that I am going to keep using this daily practice for February too. I figured that if I set an alarm to remind me to practice forgiveness, that I would make the effort each day to do so, and this has really worked. 

I have had one day off each week, and I am really looking forward to a day off again this weekend. Sometimes my working days have extended from 6am to 9pm, and so a day off each week to look forward to having no plans has been a really valuable thing. I love to cram as much as possible into my days and my life, but I also realise the importance of time to just be. To relax and be still, and be present and unwind. 

I would like to have written more this month, and whilst I have kept up to date with my blog each Tuesday, outside of that I have written little, other than notes and ideas, and to do lists. My February intentions include writing every day - and using a method that I found to be effective for my reading, which is to do just a little every day, even if it is 15 minutes, just to make sure that every day I am making progress. I will be discussing this in more detail in tomorrow's optimallyou vlog. I have noticed that just doing a little of something every single day means that so much more progress is made. 

For now I am going to continue with the commitments I have made, and build upon the habits I have begun to form. I will be focusing more on fulfilling my intention to spin more and write daily, and will see what February has in store! January has been an amazing month and I have so loved everything that has been brought into my life. I have worked with some amazing people already this year and am open and allowing everything else that is on its way. I will love to hear how your positive intentions are coming along for 2015 and so please get in touch by leaving a comment below, or reaching out on social media. 

With Gratitude, 

Niyc xx

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